Today is supposed to be my 30th post for the month but I came short by 10.
Consistency is one thing that I am trying to achieve and I believe it’s hard to get things done when you’re not hold accountable. While I’ve always believed myself to be internally motivated, there are days when I do feel like I would just tell myself to ease up and not to be too hard on myself. I do need this reminder—to be more compassionate to myself—especially when I’d feel like I’ve got to much on my plate.
But here’s the thing about consistency. When you’re unmotivated, you need someone to remind you why you are doing what you are doing. You need someone to tell you that they’ve got your back. You need a support system.
I’ve come a long way from being a lonewolf, trying to figure things out all by myself to gradually admitting that I can’t and won’t ever be good at everything. And that is absolutely okay and so beautifully human.
I know I don’t know how to ask for help sometimes. I am aware that I don’t communicate my frustrations well nor do I use them effectively. Hence, it’s so so important to have someone who understands you.
To actually feel from someone who’s committed to your project more than yourself most of the time, to me, is… what keeps me going. It reminds me how we need each other to complement each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
It is to finally admit to yourself that the reason we don’t ask for help is because we have our own little ego or perfectionism to not let others to make the same mistakes, thinking we are saving them from getting into trouble or simply to pamper them so they wouldn’t fall into hardship or stress. This mindset doesn’t just kill you internally but that of others too.
We aren’t helping people to grow. We are allowing them to be stagnant which is an opposite to being human.
I admit that I still struggle to ask for help because I am honestly a people pleaser. But if we just tweak our mindset that we can’t do everything alone and we shouldn’t want to grow alone… things would move faster and further.
It’s not wrong to initiate a project or an idea alone but to grow, you need a solid support system. If you ever have the thought and belief that you’ll get there all by yourself, that simply means that you are not ready to go bigger.